10 hari lagi....

Kalau uda counting down days gini biasa uda sering deh ditanya tentang perasaan yak. Sedikit flash back yak.

H-3 weeks

Pada saat itu, uda mulai muncul perasaan excited and deg-degan gt. Kemudian setelah technical meeting yang emnguras tenaga, pikiran dan waktu selama 6 jam, akhirnya memunculkan perasaan lain yaitu khawatir.

Khawatir kenapa?

Pada saat TM wktu itu banyak penambahan dilakukan, sebagai berikut:

1. Sebenarnya jatah stall yang boleh dari luar hotel hanya 2 stalls dengan max. 200 porsi. Itupun kena charge 200k/ stalls. Tapi ternyata my fmil memesan 3 stalls dengan porsi masing 25o. Which means bakalan ada biaya charge tambahan donk ya?

2. Kemudian setelah menghitung jumlah porsi makanan dengan asumsi 1000 tamu datang. Kita masih kurang 385 porsi di menu stalls. Jadi kita harus nambah stalls or nambah porsi. Jadilah kita nambah 1 stall dan juga porsi. Itupun masih sort of 5 porsi. Yaudahlah ya merem2 aja. Stall yang kita tambah 1 ekornya 500k dan kita mengambil 4 ekor. Uda deh pusing pala babi pas mikirin bayaran..

3. Then, kalau mau membawa alkohol uda pasti kena charge 200k per botol. And...Mr. A parents mo bawa...2 lusin. *glek* 

Emang sih, bisa dibilang ak bukan yang akan spend the extra money. Tapi merasa kalau untuk 2 jam tapi keknya biayanya ga worth it.... *pelit*

Dengan TM selama 6 jam uda pasti merasa overwhelmed banget lah ya.. Jadi worry this and that ga jelas. 

H-2 week

Still can't over the worry feeling gitu. Yang ada sekarang jadi berkembang menjadi perasaan "yakin ga ya??"

Menurut beberapa temen, itu fenomena umum sih yang terjadi. Malah menurut temen yang psikolog, itu juga wajar karena dy juga mengalami hal yang sama sebelumnya. Tapi most of it kan merasa deg2an, excited, worry ada, tapi kalau ga yakin sih jarang denger... hmmmm..

Padahal selama urus wedding ini selama setahun, ak dan Mr. A bisa dibilang ga ada yang namanya berantem gitu. Kita malah sangat considerate dan bersabar.
Kemudian sempet berpikir kalau seandainyaaaa waktu itu kita kekeuh ga mau wedding party, pasti ga akan berasa so wasting money kek gini or akan menjadi lebih intimate wedding rasanya. Trz efek lain dari perasaan ga jelas itu adalah males update details yang belum beres. Kek buat photo dan video liputan hari H kan kita dari Bali, orangnya ga ikut TM, dan uda diminta infonya via email sejak minggu lalu. Tapi ak maleees banget jawabin. Baru kemarin akhirnya memutuskan untuk bales emailnya. >.<
Bagiin sisa undangan aje males..Maunya tiduuur mulu or hang out with friends.. Keknya khawatir ilang me time. huhuhu.

Normal kaga ini? haizz..

Tapi....... kemarin juga titik balik keknya. Sedikit demi sedikit merasa mulai meningkat semangatnya.

Hari Senin kmrn dapat email dari pihak hotel mengenai hasil TM dan charge tambahannya. Uda ga berani buka sampai kemarin. Ternyataaaa... semua charge di tiadakan menjadi complimentary! The only payment hanya buat rooms for families karena ada minta bbrp room selain yang uda didapat free. Bersyukur banget!

Trz kemarin Jo from @signatureweddingdetails sent the pictures of our ring bearer yang uda jadi. Hari ini rencananya sudah sampe paketnya. Jadi berasa ga sabar n excited2 gimana gitu..

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Satu2nya detail kecil yang belum jadi hanya pop up book story tentang perjlanan hubungan Mr. A dan ak. Padahal masih mau divideoin buat hari H. >.<
Other than that keknya semua persiapan sih uda beres.
Plus lagi iseng2 mikir aja buat dried HB nanti. Tapi ini jg niat ga niat mikirnya. Kalau mo pake vendor khusus harusnya uda boleh DP dr sekarang. Tapi harganya itu loh klo 2 HB tu mahal bingits. keknya not worth it klo dipikir2 tar hasilnya jg ga yang awet, masih tergantung dari cara perawatan dan penyimpanan.
Jadi ini ya dipikirkan pelan2..

Semoga semangat ini muncul lagi. Lebih positif lagi.. *sigh*

P.S. Ada yang tau cara dried flowers ga ya?

Indeed

Rumah dan baby(?)

Waktu mulai urus soal merit, pertanyaan yang lumayan sering ditanya adalah "tar lo tinggal dimana?"

Di post sebelumnya uda pernah mentioned sih. Jawabannya "Rumah Mr. A" aka.with mertua.

And...mostly setelah temen-temen pd tau, langsung d dimulai kalimat2 warning and nakut2innya.

So, what do I feel? ~biasa aja sih sekarang~

Well, jauh sebelum Mr. A ngajak merit, disaat2 kita ngebahas ttg future sih soal tmpt tinggal abiz merit adalah yang pertama kita sepakatin. Awalnya ak sempet bilang ya tinggal bareng ortunya juga it's okay karena takut ga ada yang jagain karena cici nya juga tinggal di Bali dan rumahnya cukup besar untuk cuma tinggal berdua nantinya. Tapi gak lama ak sempet propose idea untuk cr rumah sendiri karena dua alasan dibawah ini:

1. Mnrtku Mr. A itu cuek dan tidak peduli dengan segala hal yang berhubungan dengan biaya2 household aka.depending on his parents only. I know why actually, so I wanna him to be more responsible. Sebagai ank sulung di rmh, ak sudah terbiasa diberikan banyak tanggung jawab bahkan juga ikut menanggung biaya rumah bbrp tahun belakangan ini. While, Mr. A adalah anak bungsu yang hampir seperti anak tunggal hampir separuh hidupnya. Jadi ya, wajar lah kalau dy serba tidak peduli. N I worried about it before. 

2. Supaya kita berdua bisa adapt kehidupan suami istri dulu berdua, supaya bisa lbh solid dulu dan tanpa ada intefere orang ketiga aka family. After a year or two ya br move in balik krmh mamanya. 

Awalnya, Mr. A sempet considered about this until one day his mom got very sick and then he changed his mind. Mr. A jadi worry kalau kedua ortunya sakit siapa yang akan tahu or jagain. Tapi, dia sempat khawatir juga will I get along well with his mom. Tapi ak berusaha menenangkan dy bahwa hal itu tidak perlu dikhawatirkan sekarang juga and I will try my best to be a good daughter in law. So, waktu Mr. A ditanya akan tinggal dimana nantinya sama mamanya, dy sudah bertanya bolehkah stay dirmhnya sekarang. His mom agreed. As for me, ya klo takut or khawatir sih mungkin ada tapi gimanapun orangtua itu adalah orang yang harus kita jaga, no matter itu mertua ataupun orangtua sendiri. Me myself mikirnya ga mau tinggal terlalu jauh dari rumah nyokap n karena masih ada lil bro yang stay dirumah ma bonyok, rasanya agak tenang. Dan yang penting harus bisa bawa diri. Pekerjaan ak yang sebagai guru membawakan pencerahan dalam pola pikirku beberapa tahun belakangan ini. I can relate the way my parents think or thought now. Jadi guru tu mirip2 lah jadi orangtua sementara buat anak-anak. Tujuannya adalah demi kebaikan mereka. Bedanya hanya dikata  teknik dan cara pada saat "dulu' dan "sekarang".  Keep positive and pray supaya berjodoh karma yang baik ^^

Next, after married biasanya yang akan sering ditanya uda pasti "uda hamil??"

Untuk soal anak, Mr. A sih bilangnya "Terserah kamu." Rencananya sih ga mau langsung isi dalam waktu dekat karena mau adapt dulu dgn pace hidup di rumah mertua n jadi istri orang dl *grin* Kira-kira beberapa bulan uda okay baru mau program untuk hamil. Lagipula selama ini kalau ngomongin soal jumlah anak, Mr. A selalu bilang "coba dulu d anak 1 gmn". Kalau ak sih agak maruk, maunya 3 anak. Syukur2 bisa kembar 2. hahahha..tujuannya biar cepet beres ga usah lagi hamil2. 

Dua tahun ini acara favoritku adalah "The Return of Superman" di KBS World. Acara itu mengenai anak yang ditinggal dengan papanya saja for 3 days 2 nights. Acara itu bagus juga untuk parenting, so karena ak suka nonton, Mr. A pun jadi suka nonton. Dia jadi sedikit lebih positif sih kalau mikirin soal anak. Baguslah bisa belajar2 dulu ^^ 

I love Daehan!

Tapi gimanapun manusia hanya bisa berencana kan? Ya kalau kita dipercaya jadi parents, ya berapapun kita terima. Pertanyaannya adalah "SIAP atau TIDAK?"  

Ini juga pertanyaanku selama ini ke diri sendiri dan melihat sikap Mr. A. I can say we might not that ready, uda mulai merasa siap tapi sebisa mungkin harus lebih siap lagi mentally. Buat kita jadi parents itu ud kontrak seumur hidup dah. Seperti halnya soal post yang ini, soal anak juga jadi pertimbangan banget karena belajar dari teman2ku. Dengan kesulitan ekonomi sekarang, ya sebaiknya sebelum hamil benar2 harus planning jangka panjang. Planning untuk keuangan, tabungan, dll. Jangan sampai harus ninggalin anak diurus kakek neneknya karena si mama dan papanya harus bekerja. Sebagai seorang guru, ak juga sering melihat anak-anak korban ortu yang sibuk bekerja or ortu yang mikir anak itu hanya sebuah "paket" dalam sebuah pernikahan. Kalau memang tidak siap jangan memaksakan diri. 

Ada juga temanku yang memaksakan hamil karena.....tidak bisa menikmati hubungan seksual dengan suaminya >.<  Jujur saja sih, masalah ranjang gimanapun pastinya adalah satu paket bagi suami istri. Banyak teman-temanku yang menasihati untuk hal ini. Komunikasikan dengan baik. Jangan mikir karena hamil, jadi bisa ada alasan. It's just so ridiculous reason to get pregnant, right? 

“Parents often talk about the younger generation as if they didn't have anything to do with it.” 

Dr. Haim Ginott

Right time or not? *imo*

I have been thinking about writing about this topic for days. There was one sequence of life that happened to one of my bff recently. I don't need to elaborate the incident here for privacy sake but that incident make me realize how lucky I am to prepare my wedding at this moment and wrting this also as a reflection and reminder to myself.

For any bride to be or even a woman (or girl) who dream or hope for be a bride soon, please note and ask this down in your mind:

Why I have to get married NOW?

In my opinion, this is the most important question of all. Questioned yourself and reflect it deep in your heart and mind. Don't let the opinion of people around you affect your choice. Don't get married just because everyone says you have to because you are getting old. Don't get married just because your friends have got married at this age or because you want to be a bride now. Don't let everyone dictate you even your boyfriend or future husband (or even your husband later on) by saying that if it's not now then never. If he/ she really loves you, he/ she will wait until you are ready to walk down the aisle with him/ her. Get married because you are ready mentally! Yes, mentally! 

I have to admit that 2 years ago, I was really hoping to get married with Mr. A because I (think) was ready to be a wife and I was so sure that I can be a good in law also. I was kinda forcing Mr. A to say it out to his parents. I was not happy when he was hesitate and we got into a fight every time we talked about marriage thing. Then, one day I took time to think deep and picturing marriage life and surprisingly, I got cold feet! I realized that it will not easy. I wasn't ready mentally (and financially). I was thinking that to be a bride means I have to be someone's else wife, half life, helper, supporter and it will give me a whole new family, another mom and dad and sister. The most of all is a responsible of those positions. It will not sound as beautiful as the word "bride". So, I stopped nagging and enjoyed another 2 years again until the day he asked me. Because he is ready and steady, then I am also ready to walk hand in hand forever.

Is financially ready important?
In my opinion, YES! Unless you are not using your own money aka. parents support. But at least you have to prepare certain amount of money and find the type of marriage that suit your budget. Be reasonable. Marriage is not about the party...and yes, a bride to be usually has her own type or ideal wedding, but if you wanna wait until certain amount you need to have that kind of wedding, then you will never ready. Always remember that marriage is actually AFTER the ceremony and reception. Prepare for your future. The house, home and especially for children. It's more important especially if you and your future husband/wife will still have to work to support your financial.

I saw my friend that were not well prepared after married and then struggled since she got pregnant until now. It has been predicted, but she just didn't want to listen. Before you decide to have a child, make sure you have some savings and home to go first. Because once you get pregnant and the baby is here, your earnings will be around the baby and household the most. Most of my friends are having problems in their marriage because of financial issues.

Is it normal to fight or argue? 
It's a normal thing in preparing marriage but it's not okay when you keep arguing for small things. But it's wrong also to let it be everytime you feel burden or not okay with one thing. How to solve it?

• Build a VERY GOOD communication. Find the way you could deliver your thoughts so that he/ she would listen and the most important thing is best timing. 
• Use and "you" phrase instead of "I" phrase to deliver things. The "you" phrase shows more emphathy towards your partner feeling while the "I" phrase shows more self-centered tone
• Last, remember why you choose him or her at the first place. Remember of the positive side if him/ her that made you fall for him/ her. 

When I and Mr. A had our wedding preparation from church, one of the topic was about build communication with each other. I have ever mentioned to share the questions we had. We were asked to write down the reasons we want to get married with each other. The speaker asked us to keep it near and open it whenever we argued or have (will have) a big fight. It's a nice reminder for us. I hope the list could help other bride or groom to be. Here they are:

I wrote the questions as well then answer it.

Mr. A's answer

I can say that I'm lucky to have time to think and enjoy our date for almost 8 years before we decided to move to the next stage in our relationship. I can learn from everyone around me. Each of my friend has their special story and I learn a lot from their life. I am.....grateful. 

A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short.

Andre Maurois

What could possible happens H-2 months?

A lot!!

Friday, September 4, 2015

Mr. A called me in the evening to ask about the weekend schedule. He wanted me to come with him to his friend' wedding in Alila Hotel on Saturday. He told me that he'll pick me up in the morning and ask me to bring my stuffs to his home. We will go to the hotel from his home. It's nearer from his home also. We also decide to check name list again. 

Saturday, September 5, 2015

I woke up around 9 a.m. and did my usual stuffs (doing sosmed and chats here and there). Then, I got a call from Indri (WO) about some arrangement she had made with my fmil about stall vendor from outside Hotel package. Then, I called Mr. A to inform him about my conversation with Indri. I asked Mr. A also when he will pick me up. He said soon after that. So, I took a shower, chose the dress and shoes, prepared my make up stuffs and hair curler. Then, I was ready. At around 11.00 he arrived. He used motorcycle and he told me to find any massage therapist who is good about bone. He said he just got an accident. 

My reaction was cool actually. I checked his wounds. He showed me his dislocated bone on his right shoulder. I cleaned his wounds and my mom gave him a sugar hot water. He was quiet pale actually. I knew he was in shocked. So, I have to be calm. My mom asked me to bring him to do some X-ray first before we go to the massage theraphyst. And we did so. After I fed him lunch, we set to go. We still use motorcyle (his). I drove it slowly to the nearest hospital. We went to Grha Kedoya hospital and been sent to Emergency Room because the security saw his wounds. Dr. Ken was the one who checked Mr. A and refer to the radiology room. The result is fracture bone and dislocated. The worst case was have to undergo a surgery to fix the dislocated bone. Mr. A was about to meet the bone specialist doctor but there was no one available at that time. So, we went home to his house and there his mom brought him to the best massage theraphyst she knows. She didn't allow him to do the surgery. 

Mr. A' cousin brought him to the massage therapyst and I waited at his house. He came back after around 2 hours and then not so long after that I went home. To make that day complete, I got high fever after that. I was ill so much that I couldn't sleep well that night. 

Sunday, September 6, 2015

Thanks to my mom that she helped me the night before, I was better on Sunday. But I still had a terrible headache. I just fully rest here and so Mr. A. I called him and he told me that he might rest one month from office. In a month or two the soft bone will just grow. It will need 1 year to be a strong bone. *sigh*

My fmil went to the hotel this day to check out our "decor-to-be" vendor' work. She was a bit traumatized with the first one and with the high additional cost, she need to make sure the work.

Monday, September 7, 2015

I got back to work but felt different. I couldn't barely concentrate a lot. It was like reality started to crawl in my mind. It means most of things we need to finish in these 2 months will be done by myself. He will not be always there in person. *sigh*. 

I emailed to confirm the decoration vendor and I didn't get the reply back. I got a hunch of worry but I tried to think positive. At night, Mr. A and I talked on the phone and his cheerful voice still stronger me.

Tuesday, September, 2015

Everything was seemed normal until I got the WA from the owner of the decor vendor. He said he couldn't help our wedding because he will go to Australia to help his family wedding decoration. SO...... it means, we have none. Back to zero again. >.< 

What I did right away, sent the WA to Mr. A, informed Indri and the manager in the hotel. I lost my concentration for a moment. Luckily, the hotel manager, Bu Lina, was so helpful so do Indri. So, I am having other options now with meeting schedule. The only main problem is that Mr. A can't leave his house in the next two weeks. So, whenever we need to have the meeting about wedding, I have to set it to go to his house. 

Mentally exhausted at the moment. 

Cr: http://www.commentskart.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/Wedding-Quotes-29.jpg

Throwback from boyfriend to future husband -- was, now and then

September is arrived already! 2 months, 1 week to go. I find out that Mr. A might feel it too. The excitement and et cetera about our wedding. I can tell this because recently he has been very patience to accompany me to go here and there, help reminding me with things that I have forgotten. And yesterday, though he had a long busy day at work, he still managed to list down the wedding songs and thinking about the vows that I asked him to write to be put in our customized ring bearer. Despite we always have a different taste of songs genre, I like the choice of songs he did ^^

some of the list he made last night

I found that it's very sweet of him -- hope he will not read this. hehehe. This year will be our 8 years of dating by this October. I have ever shared about our love journey in here . We have been seperated by distance for our first 4 years of dating but we managed until this time. And for the past 8 years I can see him as a grown adult. We met at our not so early 20s and each of us was a different person back there. I know he makes me better person. As for him, I know he is not that "young adult" anymore. I hope we can learn to communicate more each day and learn from each other to be a better partner, best friend, soulmate and one day we can be good parents also for our children.

This November, we will start another journey of love once again. Let us fall in love with each other once again.

Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.

Mother Teresa

P.S. May our good karma bless us 

One step after another - In detail.

"You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but seeing the imperfect person perfectly." Sam Keen

I find myself getting excited recently since my wedding day is getting closer. In the past two weeks, the list that I haven't done yet is getting lesser and lesser. It really ease me down already. I will list out my "helping hands" here :) :

1. Amaze Bridal in Pasar Baru.

    The owner is Ci Lia. She is a nice and warm person. I asked her help to alter my gown, make the veil and bolero. I met her few months ago when I went to Pasar Baru with my friends when we  did some research about fabrics and sellers for our small bussiness later. We just happened ended in her shop. Well, it wasn't really eye catching inside there however, I have the feeling of trusting her and I always count on my gut when I met someone. So, after few months, I went back there and discussed about what I need. I just need to wait two more weeks for my gown and at the end of the month for my veil and bolero. The most important thing is.... it didn't cost arm and leg! ^^

2. Signature Wedding Detail

     I talked with Johaness since June about ring bearer that I want. He said he wanted to do some research about the nice cover and book sample first. He asked for a month and another month until he came up with the dummy. Oh, I love it! It is more than I imagined. Here is the spoiler. ^^

my dummy

       I request the color to suit my wedding theme and also customized vows. So, I just need to ask Mr. A to write his vow. And the most important thing again is... that the cost is just as my budget. *grin*

3. Pretty Fit

    I choose to use this brand for my wedding shoes. I just love the simplicity of the shoes here. I had tried to look for others but I just like this brand more. 

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4. Eclat and Garnet

    One thing in my list that I forgot to mention in my previous post is about the accesories. Since I am not using bridal for my wedding, it means I don't have accesories to wear. I don't like the idea of having my usual jewelleries or buy another sets just for the wedding. But I just like this shop collections. So, I ended up buying one set of it..

can't wait to wear this

5. Hendra Irawan Decorations

    I have mentioned that we changed our decor vendor in last post. So, here we are ...Mr. A and I have met the owner, Om Hendra, last two weeks. He sent the draft and detail payment and price last Saturday. I like the way he do his works. Unfortunately, the additional cost is not small amount also. Mr. A and I are discussing this at the moment. But we have to make the decision soon by the end of this week. So that we can focus on the food testing in the hotel and from stall outside hotel vendor. If only I am a good negotiator, I might can get the additional costs lesser than now. But too bad, I am not.

6. House of Windsor

    I have been so interested with the duvet and bed cover from this brand since last two years. I keep coming back to this brand whenever I looked for bed cover. So, I love the aloe fabric and that the one I bought for our room. I am so happy that I can choose the color I want also. ^^ 

The bed room thing that we just bought was the clock also. Mr. A finally let me buy this and we found the cute one last Saturday at Central Park. It costs cheaper than my budget. 

Anw, one thing for sure. Budgeting is important.  In preparing the details, some things are just cheaper than my budget and I am just happy about it.. I hope I can control myself more in this remaining months so that I won't purchased additional items that I might not really need it at the moment.  

2 months, 2 weeks, 3 days to go...

See..it's 2 months left tapi masih banyak yang belum beres. Tiap kali keinget detailnya jadi pening. *hahaha* 

Hari ini ada sedikit kesempatan buat update tentang preparation karena sedang tidak harus koreksi tugas dan dikejar deadline. 

Dalam beberapa minggu ini kayaknya hanya tiga setangah hal dari list disini yang berhasil dilakukan, yaitu:

1. Undangan and suvenir uda naik produksi tinggal menunggu di contact pihak Adel's Card early September. 

2. Uda menemukan 2 pasang penerima angpaonya. 

3. Uda decide using the dessert table.

4. Ini dia kenapa cuma tiga setengah, karena baru Mr. A yang ngukur badan untuk jasnya. My dad and bro masih belum nemu waktu pas mereka.

Jadi, masih banyak lah yang belum beres. Malah nambah listnya *hiks*. Here they are:

1. Alter gown belum karena pas kemarin itu ke Kimoera nya katanya kalau masih November, Oktober aja baru alter masih keburu takut kalau masih berubah size badannya. 

2. Berhubungan dengan gaun, karena gaunku diambil dari Mr. A' sister place jadinya butuh cari petti coat, veil and bolero. Bener-bener bikin pusing carinya.

3. Masih berhubungan dengan gaun, gemana ini koq temen2 ku pada bilang ntar pasti kurus sendiri, ini yang ada tambah melarrrr!!

4. MUA....ini tadinya uda sempet test make up tapiiii ternyata MUA awal yg kupilih (which was my friend) ternyata tanggal meritnya a day after mine. Tadinya dy salah kira tanggalnya. Jadiiii, terpaksa bbrp waktu lalu kayak orang stress cari MUA sana sini yang sesuai budget. Finally, found one yang bener2 suit my taste. Tapi belum nemu waktu test make up.

5. Masih berhubungan dengan MUA, masih galau dengan MUA buat keluarga besar. Masih berdebat dengan nyokap. *nyengir*

6. Gaun mama2 baru kelar fitting pertama (akhirnya), kemarin ak nemenin nyokap ke Cynthia buat fitting gaun dia and thanks a lot, she wants to borrow me her petti coat! Tinggal bikin bolero dan veil deh. Sebenarnya di Kimoera bisa, tapi mau coba ke pasar baru dulu Sabtu ini buat cek dengan designer yang pernah ak tanyain. Veilnya lebih murah dia bikinnya.

7. DEKOR! ini paling bikin stress minggu lalu. Ceritanya tu my fmil diajak temannya untuk ke pesta pernikahan saudaranya di Menara Peninsula dan kebetulan dekor saat itu adalah orang yang akan dekor pesta kita nantinya. Turned out she got shock and super dissapointed. Well, sbnrnya dekor pesta hari itu price dan paketnya beda jauh dari punya kita, tapi somehow she got afraid. Walau sebenarnya, Indri (WO) tu uda remind about vendor dekor yang lama itu uda dari awal. Tapi ak dan Mr. A berpikir ya coba ajalah. Soalnya, design sketch nya menarik banget!. Singkat cerita, kita jadinya mendadak ganti. Setelah sibuk hubungin sana-sini akhirnya kita cancel dengan pihak dekor itu dan bayar cancelation fee 25% dari harga paket kita karena kita sudah contract. >.< 

Dan Indri bantu ak suggest vendor yang OK and set appoinment for tomorrow. So, besok akan dimulai lagi deh ngomongin soal dekornya (back to square one), agak tricky karena undangan n gaun mama2 uda on progress dan kalau lihat hasil dekor untuk vendor baru ini sih, beda banget dengan tipe tema yang ak mau. And now, I am so tempted with rustic theme. >.<

8. Hand bouquet... berhubung berubah vendor dekor, jadi hand bouquet malam jadinya kudu cari lagi deh. And, dalam kegalauan ini sekarang jadi suka banget sama tipe bunganya ireneandflowers . 

 cr:ireneandflowers

9. Test food... ini juga masih belum pilih selesai. Anw, sedikit ttg pihak hotel. Kira-kira akhir bulan lalu, ak dan Mr. A ke hotel untuk meeting dengan Indri, sambil nunggu kita cari kepala marketing pihak hotel untuk menyampaikan kekecewaan kita dengan cara penangan salah satu marketing mereka. So, setelah hari itu pihak hotel baru lebih serius dalam mengingatkan dan memberi inpit. Nah, pihak hotel jadinya terus menanyakan soal waktu test food dan list menu ini sebenarnya, tapi my fmil sepertinya masih memilih. 

10. Ring bearer...masih belum fix! karena model yang aku mau masih lagi dalam tahap dibuatin dummynya.*huff*

11. Detail hari H untuk acara juga belum fix tuh. Baru milih 10 lagu untuk dimainkan band uda mabok karena yang ada ak dan Mr. A saling menolak jenis lagu yang dipilih karena beda taste banget *hehehe* 

12. Detail kamar cuma baru kebeli gantungan baju! >.<  Sprei juga ada satu set karena dihadiahin teman, rencana teman nyokap juga mau bikinin. Lucky us! Thank you! But I'm fall in love with aloe fabric nya houseofwindsor. Kudu beli duvet, lampu meja, kulkas mini di meja, dan jam dinding dulu nih. And after that have to start cleaning up the room and bathroom then move my stuffs a little by little.

13. Pre marital check up ......hmmm...kapan ye? 

14. Wedding shoes juga belum beli. Besok lah.....

15. Barang-barang sangjit dan waktu sangjitan. Yang ini bener-bener bikin pening, maleees bnr mo sangjitan. mo minta skip sama nyokap ga boleh.. *wkwkwk*

16. Last, kanonik dan cetak buku misa pas hari H beserta semua detail2 di gereja juga belum. Jadwal kanonik sudah dapat tapi untuk detail-detal pemberkatan belum tau. Oya sama makanan untuk di gereja and lunch time saat habis tea pai siang harinya juga belum fix. Fyi, pemberkatanku jam 2 siang, so, tea pai dulu sebelum pemberkatan deh. 

See, yang ada malah nambah pening. Hopefully, I still can squeeze in everything in my hectic daily routines. But, I am glad, soon this will be over and we have been husband and wife. Be positive! 

“Faith makes all things possible. Love makes all things easy.” Dwight Moody

Dua hal....

Hari ini mau coba menulis dengan bahasa Indonesia. Biasanya klo menulis dgn bahasa Indonesia suka amburadul gitu karena pake bahasa sehari2. *ngenges* Ups.. bukaaaan.. tapi karena dirumah bahasa daerah, di tempat kerja cap cusnya bahasa Inggris tapi kalau percakapan dengan temen bahasa Indonesia sih cuma bahasa tak berstruktur. Biasanya ak sk baca berkali-kali kalau menulis dalam bahasa Indonesia. *cihpadahalgurusekolah* Okelah uda gagal fokus nih. 

Kali ini lagi-lagi akan bahas tentang persiapan weddingku (sebenarnya pengen juga nulis topik liburanku tapi yang lagi keinget yang ini). Mumpung sedang niat langsung deh duduk anteng,

Sesuai judulnya ada 2 hal yang mau ak bahas kali ini yaitu hand bouquet dan bimbingan pra-nikah.

Pertama ak mo cerita tentang pemilihan hand bouquets dulu deh. Berawal dari pertemuan dengan WO yang ngebahas detail isi buku wedding preparation kita dan ditanya tentang hand bouquets yang akan dipakai. Nah, ak langsung cek deh tu surat kontrak dari vendor dekor dan emang tertulis ak akan dapat hand bouquet rose dipagi dan compliment bunga lain (import) untuk malam hari (setelah nego-nego diksh juga )^^. Tapi sempet berpikir untuk mencari-cari vendor florist lain. Jadilah selama beberapa hari tuh niat cari-cari florist dan nanya-nanya serta cari referensi bunga tangan yang ak mau. Akhirnya ak memutuskan lebih baik tetep ambil dari vendor dekor aja karena dia ambil dari @atrinasoendoro . Setelah lihat-lihat IG nya, ak sreg jg dengan hasilnya. Tinggal memasukkan referensi bunga yang ak pengen aja deh. Yang pasti ak mau sesuaiin tema. Temaku adalah garden, simply because I love greeeeeeenn so much! Ak maunya kombinsi warna green, yellow, white tapi camer ku tidak suka warna kuning. Ya disesuaikan deh. Still fine for me. 

kira-kira ini dah warna dekorku nanti

Nah, awalnya menurut kontrak aku hanya dapat rose putih untuk hand bouquet pagi. Tapi aku minta sesuaiin. Ak ga mau semua putih, ak minta masukin detail hijau atau kuning. Kemudian ak jg ga suka bunga mawar putih jadi ak minta diganti either cala lily atau tulip. Ak pecinta baby's breath (buanget) jadi ak pastinya mau bunga tu harus ada,  Kira-kira bunga pagiku mau seperti ini..

yang pasti bukan tulip pink ^^

Will be just perfect with a lil green touch for matrimony 

Kalau pagi-siang ak mau bunga dengan touch hijau dan putih, untuk malam ak mau bunga dengan touch biru karena dekorku ada biru jadi bunga biru masih oke. ^^ Ak pengennya bunga untuk malam lebih terkesan 'liar', free dan casual but still elegant. *apacoba* 

Let's get wild!

pretty right?

Biru tua? YEP!! has to be this blue supaya tidak tabrak warna dengan warna dekor yang blue tiffany. Rencananya dasi groom and family juga akan berwarna ini. Bener-bener niatin tabrak warna. 

Karena Mr. A dan ak tu maunya saat party nanti bisa enjoy and nyantai, kita berencana sneaker or flat shoes an jadi bunga yang dpilih harus melambangkan "anti mainstream" jg ^^ 

Ak pengennya model posy. Kesulitannya adalah mencari bunga biru ini.. Ak ga mau nigella karena warnanya terlalu muda, ga mau hydrangea jg karena bunganya kecil dan birunya jg muda. Ak suka cymbidum. Nah, salah satu alasan ak milih stick on the florist dari vendor karena dy pernah buat hand bouquet cymbidum dan I love it! He he he.. 

Oke.. karena bahasan pertama uda cukup panjang, yang kedua ak persingkat saja ^^

Bimbingan pra nikah penting ga sih? Yes. Karena mempersiapkan kita untuk hidup berdua dan lebih menyadari bahwa pernikahan itu ga seindah masa pacaran, pernikahan ga akan ada masa "pause" atau "break" nya kalau sedang berantem.  Pernikahan adalah dua ego menjadi satu. Itulah yang sulit dipersatukan biasanya. 

Jadi. Mr. A dan ak mengikuti bimbingan di Gereja St.Kristoforus pada tanggal 12-14 Juni lalu. Ada sekitar 50 pasangan juga yang bimbingan saat itu. Agak shock karena kirain akan dalam skala kecil, Tapi ternyata buanyaaak dan dari paroki2 berbeda. Bimbingan itu hanya 3 hari dengan wkt setiap harinya 4jam an kecuali hari Minggu dua kali lipat. Awalnya berasa males bo.. tapi ternyata topik-topik yang dibahas berguna sekali. Dari semuanya yang sangat berkesan adalah topik mengenai komunikasi antar pasangan. Pembicaranya adalah sepasang suami istri yang sudah menikah 12 thn dan mereka mengakui bahwa komunikasi yang berhasil mereka jalin dengan baik baru setelah 10 tahun pernikahan.*wow* Kebetulan lagi pembicaranya itu satu introvert (suami), satunya extrovert (istri). Persis dah! 

Yang dipresentasikan adalah bentuk komunikasi yang benar dan diberikan banyak contoh-contoh real life so we can relate it, Yang paling menarik adalah kita diberikan kertas berisi pertanyaan2 mengenai alasan kita memilih pasangan kita untuk dijadikan pasangan hidup saat ini, kelebihan pasangan dan kekurangan kita. Kertas tu disarankan disimpan dan seandainya suatu saat nanti saat kita (let's say) bertengkar, bosan, dll kita bs melhat kembali kertas itu dan mengingat kembali alasan kita saat ini untuk menikah dengan dia. Ak pribadi belajar banyak dalam wkt 2 jam itu, sepertinya Mr.A juga karena dy tertarik untuk mengikuti jenis seminar komunikasi antar pasangan seperti itu lagi suatu saat nanti. Sayangnya kertas itu terbawa Mr. A jadi tidak bisa kufoto untuk dishare sekarang. Mungkin nanti ak akan update lagi, supaya siapa tau ada pasangan lain yang mau mencobanya ^^ 

"A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”

-Mignon McLaughlin

P.S.: source pictures: Pinterest

Slow pace moment

Yeah..this is my slow pace moment in preparing my wedding. I am not sure that this happens to other bride-to-be but this is happening to me. Honestly, last month was like an upside down month for me (us), every time I (we) talked about the preparation, things just upset me and I came to the moment that it was boring moment. But I can't run away from it so I have to deal with my boredom and still going on. so, here I am..slowing down for a moment, and take my time enjoying my long holiday first (yes, I am in a very long holiday!) ^^

However, the reality is still there. My checklists done just way too short compare to the undone lists.

Here the done lists:

1. Pre wedding photo sessions - DONE

2. The albums and canvasses -DONE they came early this month from Bali, safe and sound.

3. Marriage counselling sessions and certificate - DONE and RECEIVED 

4. Our room after wedding. -DONE -- I, super, love it =]

despite the color, I still love it :p

And...that's all!  *geezzz*

The undone lists:

1. Finding the angpao receiver, dealing with details for matrimony in church. --this I can't do too much since my "fmil" that decided for us.

2. Final revision for wedding invitation and souvenirs. --it irrates me a lot the past month because it's like more than five times already.

3. Altering my wedding gown. -- It arrived together with the albums from Bali. Actually, I knew it already that it won't fit but I just fall in love with it. So I decided to have it. Luckily, I have found the place to alter my dress @kimoeraboutique.

4. Choose and do food testing. -- I have to let my 'fmil' choose them and .....it's complicated. 

5. Decide the entrance song, entrance scene -- We want to be anti-mainstream one but so far we haven't agree with anything. Guess our entertainment vendor needs to really think hard to please us >.<

6. Test Make Up for D Day -- will be in July after my eyebrow embroidery done

7. Decide using Dessert Table or not --my dilemma only

8. Ring bearer! --I still have to wait for the maker finding the perfect material for my request. I have to wait until end of July *again*

9. Filling in things in our room, such as, bed cover, hanger, TV, etc. -- Well, bed cover suppose to be easy but I am just too confuse to choose one (our first one ^^).. 

9. Pre Marital check up. -- We haven't decide when the right time, but from our marriage councelling we were told that 1 month before the D day is okay.

10. The suits for Mr. A, my dad, my bro -- The maker suggested just on August. It takes 2 mo for them to finish (worry)..

See... that much! *sigh* 

Like I said, marriage was never about the party for me, But, it is quite important for our parents, so, I am kinda in burden right now to make it well. On the other hand, this is also will be (yes it wil) my first and last marriage and my own wedding party, so I want it to be run as smooth as I want to be also. 

Just like this then I remember the book that I read from Ajahn Brahm and that's why I am taking down this slow pace of mine ^^. 

" The real thief of time is “worrying”. It takes away your time in enjoying life. The future is made right at this moment, thus worrying about the future is the same as neglecting your future."- Ajahn Brahm

The perfect ring bearer (in search)

Yeah.. kinda obsessed with finding the right ring bearer lately. One of my weakness is that I don't really like an ordinary type of things around me. So, when my fmil told us to spent time to look for the ring bearer, it was just when I realize I don't want the ordinary one. Maybe, for most people will think that ring bearer is the least thing to be prepared in detail but I just want it to be something nice and pretty and unique. 

So, I started to hunt it online of course. First, I checked on Pinterest and found some that I like the most.

source: Pinterest

Oh, I love this ring bearer very much. I love books a lot like I have ever posted before so I just fall in love with this ring bearer.

source: Pinterest

This one also my type because recently I am also so in to handmade terrariums, I found this just so cute. However, it won't match my holy matrimony theme and as it is not an outdoor wedding, so this would be just not fit it. On the other hand, I think I would find problem in finding the glass box.. 

source: Pinterest

If Mr. A had to choose, he prefer this one actually. But as the bride, I still hopeful for the book type ^^. This is my last option actually. 

Okay, I have found the type I want so it's time to hunt the maker. I googled with a lot of key words and always ended up with no where. I tried instagraming also but still it didn't suit my taste. It is not a popular items to be prepared I think in Indonesia. It was really hard to find one that is really good until one day I found the right key word and it came out on the search engine. It is  @signatureweddingdetails . I just right away fall in love with their work. I think, they are more on headpiece but their custom ring bearer just meets my expectation. So, I emailed them and got the response by far. However, they have to try first since they never made book type before. I said I would like to wait for them. If they can make it, I will just go with that but if not (let's say won't suit my budget) I will just choose our last option. I know what to do with the boxes already actually. So, now, I just have to wait patiently until June. ;) 

“When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” —When Harry Met Sally

PreWedding- It's a wrap!

Yes, it's a wrap! Glad we've come out to this already.

It was on April 29,2015 night that we flew to Bali. We had to take off days from our work place for this moment. The next morning, I have to choose the wedding gowns there. But I decided that I dun want to wear a wedding gown for our prewed pictures. The reason is only one I want to be a one day bride only. ^^ That day, we had to choose which album that we want and the size for the canvas later on. The PhotoFactoryBali has several types of albums. You can see it here. We chose white  E-Series Albums type. However, we just knew that we will get 2 albums (grey and white) when we got to choose the photos. However, we can't decide the canvas size yet because we are still confuse what to do with that after the wedding day *grin*

The fun fact is we get this all for free because it is belong to Mr. A sis and bro in law' We are grateful for this. Really are........

Okay, the following day was our photo shoot time. Our venue is Pura Ulun Danu, Kebun Raya Bedugul and Pantai Batu Bolong. It was my request to have a greenery view, a Pura and beach view. Our concept is just casual and natural. So our pictures mostly look away from camera. 

From Pura Ulun Danu, we almost changed direction to Tanah Lot because of the weather. We were chased by the dark cloud. Luckily, we still able to shoot as the schedule, thanks to the photographer instinct and our good karma still bless us ^^.  It was a wonderful day! Both of us hardly get a good pictures usually and for Mr. A takes picture always needs permission. But that day, we took 500+ pictures and all smiles. We got to get bored looking at each other all day n running out of topic to discuss to get the natural pose. *LOL* Here are some of the pictures.

We got the raw files the next day and be able to choose 50 pictures for the albums in the evening. Because photofactorybali is an international based photography, they are used to finish everything fast. Actually, our albums can finish in two days however, we had to get back to Jakarta by Monday. We request to send our albums together with my wedding gown from there on August. So, I just can't wait! 

Photography is a way of feeling, of touching, of loving. What you have caught on film is captured forever... it remembers little things, long after you have forgotten everything.

Aaron Siskind

Pre Wedding Teaser

I can't wait!!!! *lol* Like I have ever mentioned when I started to write about my preparation that cute pre-wedding is in my list about marriage. So, here we are.. Mr. A and me will have our pre-wedding next week! 

In here I wrote that we didn't choose any vendor for photography from the hotel because we choose from Bali. Our photography is Photo Factory Bali The reason we use this photography simply because the owner has related to Mr. A aka. his sister and brother in law's. So, we are really thankful for this. 

However, we have to go to Bali to have our pre-wedding shoots. The problem is time. Both of us are working and in very different field. I am working in education field which means I don't have what we call annual leave permissions but my holidays are the same with the students terms break schedule. So, we have to match it our free time to mostly my free time. Previously, we chose to have in on mid March. However, at that time, I have a recollection session before my baptism and I had to go to Puncak. Mr. A didn't want to fly to Bali on weekdays. So, we postpone until the next long weekend. We can't do it on June on my next break also because we will have our lessons at church and I might have to go to Solo. So, we decided that May will be perfect time. 

Last week, we got the information about the places and what we will need for our photo shoots next week and last weekend we went to shop what we need to wear. Well, mostly it was Mr. A who shops because I have prepared mine little by little since previous weeks. Luckily, I also have lots of great friends who help me with the dresses. There are stuffs that I ordered also months before for the details I wanna have in our shoots. Here they are. 

I love greens so I request @fun_ocraft to make this for me. lovely!

our toottle from @toottle and save our date pillow from @owlbox

We got our plane tickets already and things we need. We just have to wait..and as for me.. DIET! hehehe. I did my mayo diet on February coz I thought will have the photo shoot on March and for the past few weeks, I ate a lot!. So, I do a light diet since early this week. 

Oh, one more thing, aside from the excitement for a short gate away, I also feel worry about the shoots itself. Both of us are not the type that lovable on camera. *ups* especially Mr. A. Take pictures with him were always a struggle.This pre-wedding pictures also will only outdoors since he doesn't like the formal style. So, I hope, I wish, I pray for that both of us will enjoy it and all is well. :) 

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“When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” –Nora Ephron

The Vendors

My last post was about in searching of the venue and the difficulties with the vendors. We only choose 4 vendors from the hotel; decoration, entertainment, wedding organizer and the wedding car.

What were your difficulties?

*Sigh* After we got to meet all the chosen vendors from the list given by Bu Santi, we decided just to choose them without trying to meet others vendors anymore because me n Mr.A quite fond with most of them. However, the only one that contacted me was the decoration vendors. I even had made another meeting outside to discuss about the decoration with the owner but the other two were not in touch with me at all. I tried to contact Bu Santi also about that but still no response. I was kinda annoyed already with them. 

What did you do with the difficulties?

So, last Saturday, me, Mr. A and fmiL went to the wedding expo which held by the hotel. Most of all the vendors joined in that expo. We took that opportunity to find all the vendors needed and also tested some food there.

Did you get what you need?

Yes! Finally! The first vendor we approached was the decoration. We chose De Luxe  Design and got the deal with Mr. Ekmal. On my first met with him, he said he will send the sample of the decorations cloth n colors to me so that I can use it as colors idea for my invitation card. However, I have waited for 2 weeks and he didn't send it at all. I was a bit upset at first. But when we met, he gave it to me. I still didn't satisfy with the color given. Since I love green, I would like to have garden theme on my party with summer colors touch. But, the green he gave was to dark. I asked him to change n find me another green. Next, we went to find the entertainment vendor. We chose William and Friends for this. The owner is Mr. William. We choose this vendor just because we have found who suits us for the MC and the singers. At the time, I confirmed to Bu Santi, she said that William was out of country. Then, I guess he just forgot to contact me. We settled there and he sent the confirmation letter at that day also to me. The main problem is the wedding organizer. *grumpy*

this decoration was from the vendor we chose during the wedding expo

What about it??

When I discussed about my preparation with my friend, Dewi, she kept forcing me to make sure this vendor to be chosen first above all aside the invitations. She said WO will be a big helper to the groom and bride to be before and on the D-day. At first we chose De Coktail Organizer and dealt with Ci Lala. On our first meeting aka.the vendors presentation moment, she helped out a lot and suggested some stuffs, she also said will send the email about that day meeting and bla bla bla. A week from that I chatted her via Kakao Talk and she replied that I have to confirm to Bu Santi first so she can make the confirmation letter and stuffs like that to proceed. So, I contacted Bu Santi and confirmed all the vendors and waited. According to my friends, the vendors that supposed to contact the clients and discussed it. I got nothing in few weeks. I chatted her again in Kakao Talk but she never replied. So, I thought will be able to meet her on the wedding expo but she didn't join also. Bu Santi has tried to reach her also but can't get through her. So, she asked Mr. William to talk about the organizer to me and Mr. A. We just figured out that the company name is William and Friends Entertainment and Organizer. So, to cut it short, we chose the same vendor as the entertainment as well. We think it will be easier to deal with and have meeting also. We also got to choose our wedding car that day. I can say, it's a wrap! ^^

What about the souvenirs and invitations? bridal? photography? Wedding cake?

Well, for bridal and photography we will get from Bali and about the souvenir and invitations, I was thinking to ask my friend who owns @little_secret_hampers to make it at first. However, at the end we changed the decision for the souvenirs and invitations since my friend is quite busy with her orders. We chose Adel's Card for it. We went to the Wedding Expo in PRJ last month. For wedding cake also, I was thinking to ask my friend to make it. But it will be difficult for her I guess, So on the same expo last month, we got out wedding cake from Kopaka. Since, the wedding cake might only be a display, we prefer the taste to the design. My fmiL suggested this cake since the first wedding expo, but we postpone to choose it. 

There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage. 
Martin Luther

The Venue

I never had a dream wedding ever since I was young. For me, wedding is more to have a cute pre wedding pictures, a holy holy matrimony and a mind blowing honey moon to start a marriage life. It was never about the party for me. The other thing again is that Mr. A and I was never really enjoy coming to a wedding party. In Jakarta, most likely the wedding parties are the same thing. We ever said that we don't want to have that ordinary wedding. 

But.. saying is easier that make it real. No matter how much we want a different one, but our parents say the other way around. 

My "fmil" (read: future mom in law) got several dates from the counting. But only two dates that will be on weekends. Actually, our dating date is included in those several dates she got. However, it will be on Tuesday this year. *sob*  I thought, it will be great if we can have it the same date. Okay, to cut the story short, we finally chose one date and next step we did was looking for the venue for the wedding party.We went to a wedding expo at the end of the year last year at JCC. For the venue, my "fmil" has her favorite place. She only has limited choices only, either Sun City, Peninsula Hotel, Novotel Hotel or Pullman Hotel. We got to check 2 venues on the expo and soon she made up her mind on one place. However, we didn't get the deal at the expo, We went to the hotel to make the deal there. We chose Peninsula Hotel and we dealt with Ibu Santi. 

The hotel offers quite expensive package but all in. It was around three hundred million more at first, but we cut down a lot from the package and leave 4 vendors only we want to take from the hotel. We only need decoration, wedding organizer, wedding car and entertainment. It is still around 250 million left. we don't need wedding ring, honeymoon package, bridal, wedding cake, wedding invitation and souvenirs and also photography from the package. I will explain more why later on.

At first, I was ease down since I thought we won't need much things to do anymore. But I was wrong. It all started after we met the vendors. On early February, Mr. A asked me to make planner calendar until our D-day so that we won't forget to lose the track about what we need to finish or do on months until our D-day. So, in the schedule, we didn't choose any vendors yet until CNY over. On early March, we met all of the vendors at the hotel. The story about the other vendors will be on other post. However, so far I heard a lot plus and minus about the venue but it is still okay with me. The problem is the dealing with the vendors is not as smooth as I thought. The person who dealt with us also seems like too busy to give full information and if we didn't ask, she won't say a word. I can understand that she might meet a lot of bride-to-be also. But, so far I can't see the professionalism. But, I still give a shot. My D day still 212 days from now. I believe that we will make it work soon. 

Wish us luck.....May our good karma bless us. ^^



Weddings are important because they celebrate life and possibility.

Anne Hathaway